Today, as I was going over a few topics that I have written down to blog about I realized that I never shared with you “my reason why”. What made me decide to found Elev8her?
Well, I would be remiss not to share my “why” with you.
Let’s start at the beginning. I had a wonderful childhood. One could say I had a charmed childhood. I was a spoiled daddy’s girl (I still am) who did not have a care in the world. My parents did a great job of shielding me from the troubles of the world. I often think maybe they did to good of a job because when I left for school at the age of eighteen, I was completely naive.
My first year in college was a roller coaster ride. It wasn’t the freedom that got me, it was the men (Pause here: No I didn’t leave home and become promiscuous). In high school, I never had a “real” boyfriend. My father always encouraged me to enjoy life and not spend my time concentrating on boys. So after my one great heartache that’s what I did in high school…I enjoyed my life. Fast forward back to college, I had no idea how to interact with men or have healthy relationships.
My first “relationship” (I guess you could call it that) was with a man much older than me. I met him on my first day of band camp. He was controlling and liked to alienate me from my friends. Oh, and did I forget to mention unbeknown to me he was married. That “relationship” didn’t last long. After that monstrosity, I met one of the sweetest men I have ever known. He was a musician (insert fist pump), he was giving, he was kind, and he was fine. To date it was one of my best relationships. We, of course, didn’t last because we were young, and life happens.
After that my relationships with men changed drastically and it took my life down a dark path. I have been through the worst. I have been abused by men physically, verbally, and emotionally. I have had someone who was “in love” with me have not one but three babies with other women while we were together. There have been suicide attempts, and my self- esteem was non-existent. The path that I had planned for my life at eighteen changed and I didn’t know if I was coming or going. I was lost.
Now, at thirty- five I have done my work, and I have healed from the pains of my past. I have learned valuable life lessons. While some would think I have regrets, I don’t. Those experiences and the pain I went through have shaped my testimony and made me who I am today. I am happy, I am vibrant, I am wise, and I am love. However, I did not come to this place of happiness by myself. I had a great network of sister’s who were there to hold my hand through every step of the way. They came and got me the night I said I didn’t want to live anymore. They prayed with me and for me. They came and held my hand when I found out my “boyfriend” had an entire family on the side and I f*@ked the house up. They drove me to job interviews when I didn’t have a license. They did my hair when I had no money. They encouraged me to go to therapy. They were cheering me on from the sidelines when I decided to finish school. They gave of their time and talents when I founded Elev8her.
So, my reason why is simple. I know first-hand the power of sisterhood. I know the power of women uplifting each other. I know the power of women working together. I know the magic that happens when we dream together. I know this because my sisters were my light when I had none. It is important to me to share my journey with other women. It is important to me to have a safe space where women can be honest and real. It is important to me to have a space that fosters growth in women. It is important to me to have a space that encourages you to dream.
I created Elev8her to be all of those things and much more.